Disaster sidestepped!!!

[CrappieAttitude]

I really think it is important to find someone who you can share hobbies with, however if you get your wife/girlfriend too hooked on hunting and fishing, it may be a little harder to have the boys weekends, because they might want to go along instead. My wife and I share hobbies, but we also have our own that we are glad that the other person doesn't share. Here are some of the compromises we have made in the past to both keep our sanity:

I like to fish, she likes boatrides and the sun = We go fishing

I like to hunt...She likes garage sales.... = we do our own thing

We both like watersports = a hobby that I can put a lot of quality time with in the summer which in turn earns me "kitchen passes" in the fall / winter. PRICELESS!!

The important thing is to find someone who enjoys their "own time" as much as you do. It is hard to get away if you have someone in your life who constantly needs to be at your side.

Good Luck,

CA

[Cooter]

Thanks all for the good advice - my worries might be over...I believe she's gonna leave me Too bad, by far the nicest, sweetest girl I've ever met. Heartbreak hotel, here I come.

[Scott K]

On the brite side, its time to go fishing! In both aspects. Sorry it didnt work out for you, a brake up is difficult, but isnt always a bad thing. My suggestion to you is, dont look into the past, move forward, it makes it easier.

[overdalimit]

We spend almost every weekend with the inlaws. Did I forget to mention that My mother-in-law co-owns a fishing resort on a world class walleye lake?

[Grant]

like others have posted- my wife and i each have our own things, I hunt and fish, she quilts and bakes, we both like to garage sale and go antiquing.... (ahh the joys of sifting thru other peoples junk!)

it took a while to get our time refined to this point, but now that we have it's worth it...

of course with the kids it's amazing we get any time to recreate at all

it all works out if we can keep a balance.

[Borch]

Well I come from a slightly different perspective. If you love each other enough it doesn't matter if you share the same hobbies and interests right off the bat. When my wife and I were first going out and even after we were first married she'd go out fishing with me if she didn't have anything more interesting going on. After nearly 23 years of marriage she is my Upper Red lake fishing companion. She sacrifices sleep, time with her other friends and other girlie activities to go fishing with me. She loves those big slabs, walleyes and pike. So far she has a 30" eye, a couple 15 1/2" slabs and a 44 1/2" pike she's caught. She doesn't hunt yet. But she slowly warming up to the idea of going turkey hunting with me.

Good Luck!

[federline]

Its the rare couple where both have the fishing/hunting bug, most non-hunt/fish spouses I know just decide if its worth getting used to or not. Like a couple others here, once she took real inventory of how refreshed and energized I come back, she now orders me to "go fishing" when things get jammed up at home because of me.

[SDbowhunter]

I would have worn the shirt. If she would have got mad then she doesnt have a good enough sence of humur for me. I wouldnt deal with it. I used to date a girl and missed out on many days of hunting or fishing to spend weekends with her. After giving up many day of my passion she ended up running off with some guy with nothing going for him. Oh well, her loss. After spending about a year as a single man I spent more time hunting and fishing then i had ever had before. It helped me get through a tough time and I told myself I would never let someone else get between me and my passion. Once i started dating my current girlfriend hunting became an issue. I moved SD from fargo and the 140 mile distance seperating us put strains on the relationship. From the start I let her know that nothing will ever change this and if she wanted to be with me we would have to get around it. She later moved to SD little over a year later we are still together. I did luck out she really likes to go fishing and even likes ice fishing. Last weekend i got her to shoot a shotgun for the first time so the future is looking bright.

Of course every know and then i make some concessions, but now that I live in SD I make up for it during the week.

[Cooter]

Well the lovebug is still biting and things are going well again. Came to realize its not necessarily the hunting and fishing that were bothering her only - other issues as well....she's not fond of my spittin tobaccy and my liking for wobbly sodas. Can't blame her for either there - chewing is nasty and I've wanted to quit for some time but boy its a tough addiction to kick. The beers I'm responsible with but she hasn't realized that yet - not worried about that. So off to the next chapter I guess. When things were rocky last week the thought crossed my mind about a big sea and there has to be a sweetie out there that likes to hunt or fish, but I'm 30 and haven't found that fish yet...hope its love I need most cuz I feel that for her. Ufda nigh.

[Scott K]

Your best bet is to put it all out in the open now, let her know that your passion is hunting and fishing. I dont think its right of her to want to change you, but chewing is a bad habbit, and drinking, some people just arent the same when they drink, so that is up to you, but just lay it out now,, so she doesnt try to change your life all together.

[Desperado]

A gal picks a guy thinking he'll change, but he doesn't.

A guy picks a gal thinking she won't change, but she does.

[lawdog]

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A gal picks a guy thinking he'll change, but he doesn't.

A guy picks a gal thinking she won't change, but she does.

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Truer words were never spoken!!!!

[Cooter]

Well, its all over now - just got dumped via email Thanks for all the replies, they will make this breakup easier on me. Guess I can break out the 'Rather Be Fishing' shirt again And please direct any sweet, good looking, single women my way!!!

[the squirrel]

Perfect timing... The weekend is here and there is fishing & drinking to be had.

[B420]

If she dumped you over email, she must not be a keeper. Get out fishin this weekend and remember "Win or lose, there's always Booze"!!!

[nofishfisherman]

The one thing I have learned sense getting married is that the argument is never about what it seems like on the surface.

You might be arguing beucase you didn't take out the garbage but really you are just arguing about that to fill the time before you start arguing about whats really bothering her.

One you realize this it can actually be kind of funny, I'll be arguing about something with my wife and I will chuckle about the stupid thing argument and I'll ask her when are we going to get to the real issue.

[snoozebutton]

Sorry to hear about that Cooter but it sounds like you'll be better off in the long run. Get a friend to take you fishing and bring plenty of beer, you'll forget about her in no time (especially if the fish are biting.)

[papabear]

Ya nothing ruins a good argument like the wife laughing. Or nothing ruins a perfectly good bad mood like your wife making you laugh either.

[Jarrod32]

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Well, its all over now - just got dumped via email

Thanks for all the replies, they will make this breakup easier on me. Guess I can break out the 'Rather Be Fishing' shirt again

And please direct any sweet, good looking, single women my way!!!

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Just like the title of the thread says..."Disaster Sidestepped"...

[fishinrookie]

If you want to find a keeper, I would suggest you use one of the internet dating sites and post pics of your hobbies, fishing and hunting. This way the ladies will see what you really enjoy and will not be surprised about what YOU like to do. There are quite a lot of gals who enjiy fishing and some who do the hunting now more than ever. I see you are from WISC, there are a lot of ladies shopping online for potential mates, look into it, you may be surprised. There is even one called Plenty of Fish. Check it out. Good luck

[Scott K]

I feel for you man . If your depressed, friends help, dont hide and be down about it. The best thing to do is go out and enjoy the things you like to do. Time will pass, you will find one that will accept you as you are, well ok almost .

If I lived closer to you I would have a beer with you, or invite you on a day of fishing.

Good luck, you will have brighter days!

[Cooter]

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There is even one called Plenty of Fish.

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Now we're talkin!!

Well I did slurp a few wobble sodas and went fishing - didn't much enjoy either but everyday gone is one closer to better times. Thank goodness it is June and the fishing is good!

[Scoot]

Keep your chin up, Coots. Better times ahead for sure. Hundreds of guys on this site will affirm the fact that you're much better off with some bumps and buises from the wrong gals than you are marrying the wrong gal and getting constantly kicked in the gonads. Good luck in your search for the right one... she's out there somewhere.

[Hotspotter]

I'll echo Scoot's reply in wishing you the best.

If it really is over-over, some good advice I once got is to sever all related ties possible without being vicious. You don't need that drama, and it makes things easier in the long-run.

The email thing is classless; where a phone-breakup used to be the basement, digital ditching from a serious relationship is an all-new low. It might be hard to see now, but that action is a small sample of undesirable traits in a friend or partner.

Hang out with friends and family, and look to those things that made you happy before you and her. We're pulling fer ya!

Joel

[captshorelunch]

Coot, I have a good t shirt that you could have worn. It says,"Don't fish? Then I see no point in talking to you"