how to get over someone you associate with fishing?

[broken_line]

i got really close with this girl and when the fish wernt biting i would call her, then usually hang out with her, then she changed her mind over 2 days i couldnt figure it out because i really did nothing wrong. anaways.. i dont really know how to get over her and i want to so i can fish without thinking of her and missing her.. im sorry if this was the wrong place to post here

[riverkid21]

just takes time.

[Redlantern]

Are you for real? I'd call her when the fish weren't biting? That's the first problem. Nothing like telling her she's just an option. If you dig her so much you ought to have made her more of a priority.

As far as getting over her, Riverkid nailed it. It takes time.

[SFC]

Time to walk away and go fishing. You need to find a girl who likes to fish. Time and keeping yourself busy is the only cure, enjoy your freedom!

[Wish-I-Were-Fishn]

Ah, the pains of young love.

Might try asking her out to a movie. Does she have any hobbies you like that you could invite her to go do together? Go rent a canoe and take her out in it on a nice day. Bike rides on one of our great state trails is fun too.

Good luck. Many a young lass has had his heart broken by a pretty young lassie.

[jeffreyd]

my 14 yr old son just had the same thing. this chick he liked and had his first kiss with told him she just wanted to be friends. so after a few days i asked him is he was ok, he only said i am so over her and am looking at a new girl now. so while it hurts for a few days, you will survive. we have all been there, i am too old to worry about that now so if my wife tells me to beat feet, guess what, i will be fishing and not worrying about it. however you have to take some ownership and invite the girl out to do something she wants to do. good luck

[broken_line]

i shoulda re worded that, but you could have said i was whipped for how much i talked/ texted her.. now that shes gone for good.. its hard to fill what was there as she told me she just wanted to be friends. and wont talk to me period anymore.

[kevfish1]

there are plenty of other fish in da sea

[NETim]

As you age and gain some perspective, you'll come to realize that this is a part of life. It hurts now but you'll get over it. Time heals all wounds.

As noted above, there are plenty of fish in the sea.

[Surface Tension]

Its called heart break and without it there wouldn't be any Country & Western songs.

Now if she got your dog then that really is bad.

It'll happen to you again and again. You might be the one breaking a heart next time.

We can't expect to find a mate for life in the first pretty thing that walks by.

It took very many relationships till I found a women that could stand being with me forever.

If she doesn't want to talk to you, your not going to change her mind so let her go.

You might be all bummed out now but you'll eventually get over her.

Take a deep breath, hold it and then let her out of your life.

[Ed Carlson]

New plan..

Stage #1...stop mopping about, time is on your side.

Stage #2... Spend as much time on the beach, as you do in the boat this summer....the situation should resolve itself.

If that still is not working..well it's time to bring in the big guns.

Stage #3...Bring a puppy with you to the beach.

Works every time guy.

[Wish-I-Were-Fishn]

Great advise Ed!!

[SpecialK]

New plan..

Stage #1...stop mopping about, time is on your side.

Stage #2... Spend as much time on the beach, as you do in the boat this summer....the situation should resolve itself.

If that still is not working..well it's time to bring in the big guns.

Stage #3...Bring a puppy with you to the beach.

Works every time guy.

+ infinity

[jeffreyd]

one thing after being married for a long time, many of us live vicariously through the single guys. while i would hate to have to do it all over again, sometimes it is nice to think about what i would be doing if i were not attached at the hip and did not have all the responsiblity that comes with it. a small shack on a lake somewhere with no phone only person that comes by is the grocery delivery and beer truck. that would be good!!

[Wish-I-Were-Fishn]

Shame on you Jeffreyd! If your wife reads this she will grab you by the earlobe and make you cry uncle

[jeffreyd]

who says she doesnt do that already. i know i know, but the chances of her actually going to a fishing forum is pretty limited i think. she could surprise me i guess.

[FishinChic1]

Dude I'm in the same boat. I broke up with my man in December and I still think about the a-hole. Everyone takes a different amount of time to get over someone, but what they say is true, you find the perfect person when you're not even looking at all. Be happy to be single and be able to do what or whoever you want!! Take advantage of the time you have to find yourself, and you'll find a lady that is worthy of you and vice versa. Go out there. Date. Do stuff. Whatever it takes. You'll still think of her probably, but then you'll meet someone who takes your breath away and forget all about her. Have fun!

[upnorth]

Girls come girls go. Got my heart broken a few times and broke a few myself. Just look at it as practice. Just part of life.

[CJH]

When you are young:

1) HAVE FUN!

2) Date as many people as possible

3) If you are having problems with #2, see Ed's post above about the beach and puppy.

[broken_line]

thanks guys! ive found that she still kinda talks to me.. and i try to keep talking to her with out getting the same feeling i got before and not thinking about what happened.. so far its working and i hope im just not screwing myself over by just covering it up not getting over it.. she seems to get really torqued off/ cranky if i hang out as a group with other girls or talk to them in the halls.. and boy does it feel good but last week.. i ran outa luck like toiliot paper during a great sickness!

[broken_line]

and positive feed back helps a TON!

[bottom-bouncer]

When you are young girls Are like a city bus every ten minutes another will come down the street. Do not let one of those buses run you over and dont be to eager to get on one unless its the one that is going to take you to were you need to go.

[Wish-I-Were-Fishn]

Yep, playing a little harder to get, gets their attention too.

Had a girl tell me she thought we were spending to much time together, so I stopped coming over for several days. She called and said she missed seeing me and now she's my wife

[fishinchicks]

Most of the girls in your class change who is their best friend on a weekly basis, it seems. Just keep talking to her without putting any pressure on her. Sometimes friendships turn into dating, but sometimes they are better off as friendships.

[sdpikehntr]

Yep, playing a little harder to get, gets their attention too.

If you just sit back and relax, don't chase, she will come back. If she doesn't, it wasn't ment to be. Life is to short to spend pain filled hours and days chasing someone that doesn't respond... when there is someone else that will.

Just think if you limited yourself to a pond to fish in, when there are lakes and oceans to explore. Play it cool.

[SkunkedAgain]

.. im sorry if this was the wrong place to post here

I almost fell over in my chair when I double-checked which forum this was posted in...Expert Information...for relationships?!? We're all novices even when we've been married for 40+ years.

In all seriousness, you've been given advice here already. The best thing that you've got going for you is that you realized that she is gone. I've seen countless friends (and myself back in the day) think that she'll come back - agonizing over it - hoping. Sometimes they do come back but it's rare. Maybe watch the movie Swingers a couple of times, and then go hang out with your friends. Being alone is the last thing that you want to do. Go have fun. Do something new. Don't fish (gasp!) for a while. Take a trip somewhere. The moment you stop thinking about girls is when one will walk into your life unexpectedly!