WIFE

[herefish101]

Am i the only one who gets the third degree everytime i go fishing, i'm ready to sell all my stuff just to prove a point, but then i would have to buy everything again, it just makes me so mad the season is short, when its over i stay home, Does anyone else have this problem?

[bogwalker]

No.

[eyebjim]

Time for a trade in!

Just kiddin.

Have you tried asking her to come with. Maybe she would understand you going more if she got to come with once in a while. Just a thought.

[OakdaleFMR]

Sorry no problems like yours my wife likes to come with me. I wouldn't trade my wife of 13 years for anything. I just wish we had two pickups because she likes taking "my truck" and leaving me "her equinox" :-)

[mntim]

Nope, I coach 2 hockey teams so I am very busy in the winter. If I have free time to get out on the ice, I'm gone with no issues. Sounds like you just need to talk to her and find out why she doesn't like you going

[herefish101]

i'm jelouse, she has no intrest in ice fishing, i cant keep her out of the boat, but on the ice she just stays home and poorwordusages.

[merkman]

Take the money you would spend on one trip and spend it on her (ie the spa).

Find things that she loves to do to get her out of the house for the day... when she is gone, go fishing.

My wife hates me going fishing, so I fish lakes that are real close to me from 6 AM to Noon on Saturday morning.

I tell her it is so I get out of the house so that she can sleep in.

She thinks I am such a wonderful husband :evil:

[harvey lee]

I try to help my wife plan for something to do while I am away.

I have purchased a gift certificate to have her nails done or something she could enjoy while I am gone.

She typically never has any issues with me going unless I am gone for 4-5 weekends straight.

Yes, I have a very understanding bride.

[Maverick]

What ever you do, don't quit fishing or you will find yourself quitting everything else that takes you out of the house. It sounds like there are bigger problems than you going ice fishing.

When I was first married my wife didn't like it when I went hunting and fishing. I gave her a choice. Either ease up when I go hunting and fishing or I will just stay home all day. 32 years later I am still hunting and fishing and she doesn't have my sorry a** hanging around the house all day.

[andrew chadwick]

at least she hasn't left you yet beacuse you fish so much. Thats what happened to me

[kevfish1]

My wife always tells me to go fishing.. and asking if I could stay longer. I am starting to wonder why?? lol.

on the other hand when she wants to go shopping I say c-ya have fun.

I may be alone but I dont want my wife to go fishing with me. Nor does she want me going shopping with her. I would FemaleDog the whole time shopping and she would do the same thing fishing. Time away is a good thing for couples. imo

[thedeadsea]

You are in the same boat as most of my buddies. I constantly try to get them out of the house, only to have their wife(wives) plan them something to do at the last minute.

A guy has to fish, whether it is once a week or once a month. So if you are having problems getting out, you need to work things out, whether it means compromise or going when she is busy.

I have found that many women have no hobbies, so the fact that their husband could spend virtually all of their free time hunting, fishing, ect drives them nuts because they are sitting at home while the man is out having fun WITHOUT them.

[Riich]

Maybe if you would bring some fish home once in a while she would be more understanding.

[thedeadsea]

I may be alone but I dont want my wife to go fishing with me. Nor does she want me going shopping with her. I would FemaleDog the whole time shopping and she would do the same thing fishing. Time away is a good thing for couples. imo

ABSOLUTELY!

One of my buddies wife absolutely cannot stand to be home alone so she will insist on tagging along on anything he is doing, including inviting herself on "guys" trips. I would suffocate if I didnt have space. I love including my wife and kids in my stuff, but sometimes a guy just needs some time of his own.

[Lip_Ripper Guy]

I'm a firm believer in establishing these sorts of things very early in a relationship, "I go fishing roughly every other weekend, can you handle this?". I know plenty of people that are victims of very short leashes (and downright miserable) and it is because this sort of arrangement wasn't communicated properly early on.

I'm also a firm believer in keeping them your girlfriend instead of wife for quite some time just to be sure the bait & switch doesn't creep up after a year or two :-)

[Lve2fsh]

The current wife is my second one and hopefully the last one. When she first met me she couldn't believe how much time I spent fishing. I told her I would never give it up and if she wanted to hang out with me she either had to go or accept the fact that I go. So for her birthday one year when we were dating she got a pole and license and off she went with me to sleep on the ground, use the bushes for a bathroom and fish. Now you have to understand she is a little miss prissy, nails, hair, makeup, looks nice but has never ask to go with me again. I drag her out every now and then and shes goes but prefers to just let me fish with the guys.

Ice fishing to her is the worst thing in the world but she has gone twice. I bought a Wilcraft and took her out in it, she liked that and might go again.

Ok 3 day weekend coming up and I need to load the trailer.

[broman]

I get the third, the fourth, and the fifth. Sometimes I think she'd be happier if I was cheating on her instead of fishing.

[bottom-bouncer]

I dont have a problem sounds to me like you need better comunication. I used to hear about it ocassionally because I spend a lot of time outdoors. she loves to fish so I bring her with when the time is right if its brutally cold she knows she will be miserable so she stays home and she also knows that the amount of work doubles for me when she is with so sometimes she sends me out alone so that I only have to take care of myself. this year I got her into bow hunting and she loves the piece and queit and it has made her ealize why it is so important to me..

[thedeadsea]

I'm also a firm believer in keeping them your girlfriend instead of wife for quite some time just to be sure the bait & switch doesn't creep up after a year or two :-)

Best advice I could ever offer to a younger guy!!! Some of my buddies found this out the hard way!!!

Took me 4 years to pop the question.

[harvey lee]

Its all a comprise. My wife knew I hunted and fished alot when we went out together. It was and is part of my life. She simply has no issues with me going.

I also have no issues when she would like to do something.

This is a two way street for both spouses.

[quijibo]

I don't think that my wife realized how much I loved spending time at the cabin hunting and fishing until she came home one day and said that we were moving to Colorado(back to Co for me). She finally started to get the idea when I hadn't said a word to her for over a month. She hasn't said a peep since then about the money or time that I have spent on hunting or fishing.

She also knows that if I stay home I will want her to help with on of my "projects", like my 15,000 gallon pond.

Adam

[Sonicrunch]

no

[Rippinlip]

My wife and I were together for 6 six years before we were married and like stated before, I wanted her to understand the outdoors was very important to me.

After many years of marriage there is no struggles in our relationship due to the outdoors.

I make sure to compromise with her needs also, I have given up bow hunting weekends to do what she wanted, once you do that they see its not just about 1 in the relationship, it is a relationship of 2.

In fact she started Bow hunting this year and is addicted.

She was the one that planned our Mille Lacs fishing trip over the New Years, she is great.

Do not force her to go with you or force yourself to leave without her, communicate.

She ended up finding out out what I knew all along.

The Outdoors is a heck of alot more than just harvesting.

Sure makes a rough work week seem more tolerable when there is no worries.

Good Luck

Mark

[opsirc]

nope. The wife used to go out ice fishing all the time with me, now she perfers to stay home, and lets me go when I want. In the summer she loves to be out in the boat and offen tells me we need to get out on Lake Superior with our big boat.

[Scott K]

She is usually ok with me fishing, but at times, I may abuse the right to go fishing, but I get the hints when it is time to stay home a little bit. But after a couple days at home, I am good to go again.