Ways to pacify the misses...

[catman71]

i have 2 small kids, so when i leave for hunting, it is extra work for the wife who works full-time also. What do you guys have to go thru to make her happy? I started taking the father-in-law last year. Works good. Any other thoughts?

[lawdog]

Fortunately for me, her oldest is old enough to go along this year! It makes all the difference in the world. "I'm going hunting" vs. "I'm taking Dylan hunting" couldn't get more different responses

[Mr Special]

You guys have some great reason. I have a daughter but she's only 17mos still a little to young. Can't wait till the day I take her along. My miss is already worried about me turning her into a tomboy. My Father-in-law does hunt and wants me to go with him and his buds. But I've been with my hunting party for years and it just wouldn't be the same ya know.

Good luck

[buzzsaw]

I have an 8 month old girl and a 2 1/2 yr old boy... I just tell her I'll try to be back Sunday afternoon vs Sunday night and she says Ok, but try hard.

I respond with if I had spent more time bow hunting up north I'd have more of a clue where the trophy was bedding down and could get done really quick, but since I only got to spend two weekends up there it may take a while longer now. She loves me.

[Bassboy1645]

My girlfriend dosent like me shooting "Bambi" she calls them so i just keep shut and say noting of hunting. ill be back early next week k sweetheart? love ya. Get the idea? it must work cause shes clueless.

[catman71]

bassboy, it would be a dereliction of my duties as a married man to not inform you of the changes expected in diminishing outdoors time that comes with the title "husband" Careful on that ice boy....there is a warning on ciggarettes but not a marrige license? think about it..good luck!

[FOOT]

I was lucky. When my son and daughter were too young to go along my wife understood. She liked to go fishing but was not a big hunter. So I would plan a couple of weekends where just her and I would go fishing and during the winter we would take a weekend and just go on a mini-vacation around home. Spend a couple nights in a hotel, take her out to eat, maybe to a movie or show, let her make the decisions and would not expect any loving making UNLESS it was her idea. Thank goodness she liked it as much as I did.

I know I had far more "free" weekends or Saturdays to go hunting or fishing then she ever got back from me.

As the kids got older and could go along it was a family outing. I know you can have fun with the boys but they can't compare to the memories of going with your daughter or son. I can still see the excitement and pride on their faces when they caught their first walleye, shot their first deer, pheasant, duck etc:

Now I look forward to doing the same with my grandchildren.

[woodview]

I say threaten to cut her off!

I wouldn't recommend showing her your reply to the thread on why we go deer hunting (think it was yours)

Personally I bought Theresa a dozen roses this week to show her how much I appreciate her. Was a bit worried she'd just see through it and get ticked (she did and didn't) .

[SUNNYD]

That father-in-law trick is the oldest one in the book. I have been icefishing every weekend in the winter months with mine for the past 5 years. Best thing is I don't even see him as my father-in-law, just a really good fishing buddy and friend. That works well for my wife taking it a little easier on me...

However he is a wrinkle... We have a 19 month old son at home and another son due within the next 10 days. If all seems well this evening I will be leaving at 9 P.M., driving the 3 and 1/2 hours up to the hunting place to meet my father and brother by 5 A.M. Tomorrow morning.

I have already taken two deer (in the early doe season), but have a gut instinct that at least 1 biggun will be shot this year and want to be a part of that. Cell phone will be on...if she calls I will be on my way home....I have already warned her that if the baby is born during season that we will be celebrating his birthday early for the next 12 years and that I am naming him "BUCK". Celebrating early was fine, naming him BUCK didn't!~

I really do have a keeper!

[widetrack]

See you in a week Women... have the place all cleaned up when I get home...

[Hotspotter]

Tried the flowers....get the line:

"Men only buy flowers when they've screwed up or are about to screw up."

Which is true.

End up having a talk and just making her feel appreciated. For some reason, it seems like it's a woman's worst fear to be replaced by hunting/fishing. I just need to make her feel more important than my hobbies, and we're good. It helps that we don't really buy beef and go quite a ways on the venison and fish I bring home.

Also helps when you encourage her to go out, visit parents, etc. while you're away on long weekends. Makes it easier on everybody.

Joel

[Gissert]

Quote:

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See you in a week Women... have the place all cleaned up when I get home...

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LMAO! ...and bake me a pie, dang it!

Actually, I'm a pretty lucky guy. Between my wife and I, the last one to get a deer has to buy the other supper.

[swamp buck]

I have one of those wonderful women that understands that hunting is my time with the guys in the woods, and gives me her full support and best wishes when I leave. Now, when I get home, Honey-Do lists are waiting! She knows I'm not getting away from her, just fulfilling our yearly "man-thing" in the great woods!! Good Luck all!!

[catman71]

widetrack, i salute you sir!

[viking_fan]

Well the trick is not a trick at all.

Just make sure she knows how you feel.

I get so worked up it's hard for her not to notice.

There is no way she would not let me do what a love so much.

All she can say is that she just doesn't get it.

Just remember her when she needs her time even if it's not as obvious as checking all your gear night after night.

Remember her and you will always have yours.

[NELS-BELLS]

Rule #1 is to train em right from the get go...while your dating. Then hold out on marrying them for about 7 or 8 years. When they keep bugging you for a ring, you ask them "what about all of the hunting and fishing that I do?" Not until they say that it's OK if you hunt and fish a lot, that you walk them down the isle. Also make sure that you get that OK in writing.

If you were one of those P***y whipped guys who changed there lifestyle while they were dating and then married her. GOOD LUCK!

If any of you show this to my wife...I'll hunt you down.

Nels

[picksbigwagon]

Here is my situation: I didn't grow up hunting and fishing, my brother in law got me into hunting 7 or 8 years ago after my wife and I had been dating for a while, he died two years ago, and now I have gotten into ice fishing too. Not to mention my boat......

We have two boys, 4 1/2 and almost 3, my wife travels quite a bit, it comes in waves, like no travel for 2 months and then it is like every week for 6 weeks, etc. Her idea of relaxing is spending time with her parents and her sisters....key words, her idea of relaxing, not mine.

Our unspoken deal is basically I get a pheasant trip with my friends every fall (next weekend in Iowa) deer season ( in iowa this year too) and then an ice fishing weekend as well in January. I take day trips and maybe weekend trips to mille lacs once in a while too. Interspersed are day trips locally in the metro area too. She doesn't complain about my trips because of a couple things: 1. I plan ahead, 3-4 months ahead if not more, give the bride time to know what is coming up and then remind her when there is 4 weeks and 2 weeks to go.... 2. I don't make demands about what needs to be done when I get home 3. I make sure that if I say I am gonna be home at 5 on sunday, I am home at 3 and if not, I call before lunch...... Simple communication is all it takes fella's... do I hunt or fish as much as I want, no, but then, who does????

[Labby]

Here is a comment that has worked well for me

I tell her

'What if the Mall was only open for 3 months year wouldnt you want to be there as often as you could"

Works wonders

Lab

[picksbigwagon]

Can I use that one? that is awesome, at least for hunting....