WIFE

[bigfish24]

so true

[fishgutz77]

She needs to find the equivelent of your fishing to do on her end of the deal.

But tell her she needs to make what ever she spends.

[Fredd]

Keep beating the drum......after 15 years or so she will stop bugging you. I've been married 20 years and have no complaints.

[bikeoutback]

I'm fortunate as she got me started deer hunting with her family and I got her camping, fishing and ice fishing so we spend alot of time outdoors together, it's pretty much defining us it seems. We get alot of "wow" when talking about each weekend cause seems we always are unpacking from one to pack for the next.

I also waited 5 years to pop the question and we'll be at 6.5 years before the big day.

Fortunalty I still retain Tuesday night bowling league with the guys, NFL draft weekend, college homecoming, and backpacking trips with the guys.

[kevfish1]

Bowling??? now that I would have a problem with.. jk

[mmartin]

My wife makes me go. Is that bad?

[Scott Stein]

once in awhile I get the "ugh you're going fishing AGAIN" from my girlfriend. I say "yep,wanna come with"? Once in awhile she does go with and when she gets bored we leave,that way she still wants to go with once in awhile. My girlfriend likes to be outdoors so the time I spend fishing,I take her snowmobiling. She works alot at the YMCA so I get my fairshare of time fishing. Sorry to hear about your problem. As said before spend some money and get her a weekend get-away at a spa or something. I think it's only fair they get something in return but that's just me!

[crappiekid]

Do not give up and sell your stuff. You need to find a way to comprimise. My wife is in softball and other activities in the summer. I build points in the summer when she is into her stuff. We have 2 younger daughters that finally can go with once and a while. This helps. Early on when the kids were younger i felt guilty leaving all the time. I cut back a lot in respect to my wife and the work load.

Find a way to get her interest in ice fishing. Grill steak, bring shrimp, plan a trip over valentines weekend, bring the cribbage board. Last but not least buy her something she likes!

good luck

[squeeb27]

I was married to my high school sweetheart oct. 4th 2008, yeah that was the 2008 duck opener. My family was not happy about it, inevitably our anniversary was the first day hunting at sunup. She was cool with me going just had to be home at one. I lucked out with a good woman. As far as fishing see if you can get another couple to go with. We just went with another couple last sunday to tonka. We set them up turned on the heater then went hole hopping. They loved catching those 5 in perch!!!

[savageangler]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yxxtEnI72Hw

[minnbowhunter]

Been married for 30 years and my wife is just fine with me fishing. For me It's a matter of respect. I don't spend money if we can't afford it, neither does she. When I am home she is treated like a queen, she has activities that she enjoys doing without me. I had a problem with her years ago wanting to know what time I would be home, now she asks "what day will you be home" It's all good, bro.

[Chode2235]

Its a better question for your marriage councilor or shrink than the internet boards. You guys amaze me sometimes.

[andrew chadwick]

you guys think Im messing with you...I'm not.

[52#FLATHEAD]

Without your wifes knowledge......Go rent a storage shed, put EVERYTHING icefishing in it. Tell her you got rid of it to make her happy, put her on a guilt trip, do everything & anything you can to annoy her during the time when you would be fishing instead of being w/ her. After a week of you driving her nuts...she might tell you to go fishing. Go to the storage shed to get your stuff & fish your butt off. If she doesn't let ya fish.....time to trade her in. Who wears the pants in your house?

[waterbound]

Don't sell your stuff and don't hide it and lie about selling it either. Bring her fishing with you or if she doesn't want to spend some time with her doing what she wants to do, even if you aren't very interested and maybe she'll decide she wants to spend some time doing something you prefer like ice fishing. Worst case whittle down your ice fishing time but don't quit altogether and focus on the open water season...it sounds like she really likes going with then and you can't complain about that!

[minnbowhunter]

Who wears the pants in your house?

She wears the pants, but I work the zipper!!

[mr_jman]

haha!

I've been with my girlfriend for 3+ years now. She doesn't mind coming along on the warmer days and she knows how to set up my portable while I drill holes. She can be tough to read as sometimes she really doesn't want me to go but we live far enough away that I get out on my own time and spend more time with her when we're together.

Nice to know I'm not the only one who gets the guilt trip once in a while though. However when we started dating she really didn't want me to get up early and go on fishing opener one year and she won that little battle, but I will never let her live that down if I really want to get out fishing now and I've gone on every opener since! Fortunately the weather was so bad for that opener it wouldn't have been a great time anyways!

[icehousebob]

I've been married 40 years and my bride has no problem with fishing or hunting. I started taking the kids out at about the age of three and they thought it was great being out with dad. Now, my wife sometimes tells me that I've been working too hard and that I should get out on the lake. It helps that I give her parents fresh fish once in a while. She has her interests and I have mine. We're married but we still are individuals.

[gr82fish]

All great advice, especially concerning respect for each other, communication and compromise, cost of our hobbies compared to theirs, etc. Don't sell by any means, but make the situation 'work' for both of you to enjoy (for years to come).

On the other side of the coin, and to keep the mood light(er), we assume she passed the prenup questions? (You have brothers/dad/relatives who hunt/fish...you know the diff between a curveball/split-fingered fastball, etc.)JK

[rcatcherman]

There women were men! What else do you need to know. It's a 2 way street at my house. Give and get. 25 years together and gets better everyday. This Sunday up to Lake of the Woods for our 25th year.

[Gordie]

when I got married I changed the vows a bit and I used to read "For better or worse and thru sickness and health"

I had it changed to "For better or worse and thru hunting and fishing"

The pastor of the chuch said that was a new one and we laughed and talked fishing for a half hour before we got back to the bussiness of our wedding

[chris63]

Dude,don't sell your stuff!Even if you repurchase your stuff it still won't be the same.Sounds like it could possibly be fflf.(Female fun limitation factor)Just when you are going to (or even sometimes think about it)achieve fun she wants to put the kibosh on it!Hang in there and as others have suggested communication is the key to any relationship!c63

[Ed Carlson]

They marry you because "They love you just they way you are"..."Your just PERFECT"..and then...they spend next 30 years or so trying to "fix you".

It's all explained in great detail in the fine print at the bottom of your marriage license...don't feel bad...we all missed it.

So now....your must "Endeavor to Persevere".

Good luck!

[herefish101]

I get the third, the fourth, and the fifth. Sometimes I think she'd be happier if I was cheating on her instead of fishing.

exactly

[fishinfey8]

I have a g/f that i've been dating for over six years now. She didn't really know how much I liked fishing before we started dating so I ran into similar problems as yourself. During the summer she liked to go fishin w/ me, even in my little boat(14ft). She didnt care much for ice fishing, so as you can imagine it bugged her when I would take off for 4 or 5 hours to sit on the ice... UNTILL...I boght my hub style house and set it up as a warming shack. I put really nice reclining lawn chairs and brought hot chocolate. We brought a book, games, even will bring supper and make it out there. I put out tip-ups around us outside, and made a relaxing, nice atmosphere inside and we just talked and enjoyed spending time together. I think that women don't like the fact that when we go out, we stare at our fish graph, steer our boat, whatever it is it takes our main attention off of them. I just found a way to keep it on her, untill a flag goes up!

O ya and she LOVES going out "tip-up" fishing.