WIFE

[Boar]

Have ya tried paying the rent before ya leave? You know, wink wink. My wife loves it when I go cause when I come back from hunting an fishing I'm like a ruttin buck for some reason an well you know......... good luck, if it's bad an ya cant compemise, counseling can help, most time it takes change on both ends, sometimes it just dosent work. good luck. boar

[Ely Lake Expert]

Well I got one for you guys. My girlfriend is a vegatarian and scared of going on ice and scared of fish. lol

Yet she tells me she is fine with me fishing and hunting as long as I clean the animal before I get home and don't show her pictures of dead animals.

She will even cook them for me.

[Bob Clausen2]

I've been a member of FM (under a different "handle")since it's early days and believe this is one of the tackiest threads I've seen. Posting your complaints about your wife on an ice fishing forum is as objective a search for solutions as having inmates make up the parole board. If you really want insights, give your wife the opportunity to post her views alongside yours. 25 years of working in heads tells me that the issue is the relationship...not the fishing. Man up and deal with it in an arena that can improve the relationship issues and the fishing issue will fall into place. Following this thread brings up an image of 40 people all sitting on one side of a teeter-totter...a lot of fellowship, but no movement. Since your wife has no input, I'll join her on the other side of the teeter-totter until we hear from her.

[BobT]

Pretty much what I was thinking, hence my reason for not commenting.

[thedeadsea]

Take it easy on the guy.

If he has no other place to vent and/or get advice, where better than from fellow outdoorsmen?

I agree that it is most certainly a deeper issue than fishing, but many guys on here have offered very good advice on ways to work things out. Clearly he is not the first person to have this problem.

Steve

[jigginjim]

If I don't go fishing my wife askes "Why, I'm not fishing"?

It like the three golfers #1 said "Had to buy my a Gold necklace and ring, before I got come out." golfer #2 Said "I had to book a 7 day cruise, before I got come out today"

Golfer #3 said "I asked my wife this morning, golf or sex?" she said "take your sweater its cold out on the course"

Fishing or Sex? She'll send you fishing every time!!!!

[AndRo]

I have been out of the game(ice fishing) for a couple years. Last year I only went once. I decided its time to get rip roaring again and I am picking up a nice portable this week (sales are starting). She wanted to hang out this weekend and I said "I really want to get out and use the new ice house I'm picking up". She replies "I feel like I'm being replaced." I asked her if she wanted to go along.. she was in, without second thought. I think I have a winner, I have turned her into a hardcore Vikings fan, now maybe fishing... pshh Money in the Bank.

[mainbutter]

I've got to say, after reading dozens of responses I'm more than a little surprised.

It sounds a lot like some guys use fishing to get away from their SO's. Frankly, if my girl came along with me I'd be ecstatic. I'm going to indoctrinate her to fishing this open water season

Heck my only complaint about my girl is that we're not married yet.. lol.

[Chef]

If you guys marry, will she be Mrs. Butterworth? Good Night Everyone!!

[shizzy]

in my search for a lady I always tell them up front I need space and have hobbies. I always back this up with a "come along any time" comment. I enjoy spending time with my wife but I also enjoy my time drinking beers with friends or fishing. she grew to understand this from the start. sometimes she comes along, sometimes she doesnt.

sometimes I go shpooing with her, sometimes I dont.

[FishNovice101]

OK - I am not the wife of 'HereFish101', but I am a wife.

I used to get upset when my hubby went fishing without me. Then I went fishing with him. Now I'd rather go fishing without him and go with my son and my girlfriends.

[me_fathead]

  FishNovice101 said:

OK - I am not the wife of 'HereFish101', but I am a wife.

I used to get upset when my hubby went fishing without me. Then I went fishing with him. Now I'd rather go fishing without him and go with my son and my girlfriends.

Nice!

[dougger222]

My wife used to get mad at me all the time for ice fishing. Before we started dating she was warned by her family of my love of ice fishing. At first she seemed ok with the idea then when we got married things took a turn for the worse. Instead of telling her I'm going fishing I had to ask her to go fishing. This became an issue as I don't work much in the Winter and she works a lot in the Winter. Soon found myself having to lie to go ice fishing for the day which is not healthy! Of course there was no way to lie to go on say a 4-5 day fishing trip.

Now only after buying her a BMW and her dream house can I go fishing when I want. Now it's like she's happy for me to go on fishing trips. It's amazing what half a million dollars can buy. BTW, best money ever spent thanks to the collapsed housing market!!!

One thing about my wife is she's wonderful with people and animals and for the past 4 years over half my business is generated from her customers which his truly amazing. The car and house is like a way to say thanks for making my business what it is today. Although I still owe her a 50in tv and a two sided fireplace for the master. These were promised to her for landing me certain jobs in 09.

BTW, my addiction to ice fishing did almost cost us our marriage about 6 years ago. Won't go into details but woman need certain things men really don't.

We do take some fishing trips together and at times she has fun. We've charted several times on LOW and she's even gone up to the sleeper on LOW a few times. This is better than some of my friends who's wives will never go around a fishing pole.

[Maverick]

And they say that the divorce rate in the US is over 50 percent. It's hard to imagine.

[Gordie]

  jigginjim said:

If I don't go fishing my wife askes "Why, I'm not fishing"?

It like the three golfers #1 said "Had to buy my a Gold necklace and ring, before I got come out." golfer #2 Said "I had to book a 7 day cruise, before I got come out today"

Golfer #3 said "I asked my wife this morning, golf or sex?" she said "take your sweater its cold out on the course"

Fishing or Sex? She'll send you fishing every time!!!!

just make sure you ask your own wife that question

mine its sex then tells me to go fishing

[jigginjim]

elwood, Sounds like you have it nice.

Mine will come out on the boat maybe 2-3 times a year. We did a 2 day LOTW trip 2yrs ago, she thought that was fun, but how she doesn't have the time.

This year we took different vacations, I went to canada fishing for a week. She went to Scottsdale, AZ. for X-mas. I still got my ice fishing in. My trip was cheaper, $295 for the week. Hers cost $450 just for plane fare. O'well summer is coming another trip to Thompson, Manitoba.

[Gordie]

  jigginjim said:

elwood, Sounds like you have it nice.

This year we took different vacations, I went to canada fishing for a week. She went to Scottsdale, AZ. for X-mas.

No jigginjim sounds like you got it nice you get two vacations

[Supercrew]

7 over 30.... WOW.

26 years here and all is the best, just takes time...

[Boar]

Here fish 101, sounds like things are going forward, remember that marriage is 100%about giving, an if ya both do that then it can be a very rewarding marriage, it just takes a hole lot of work to get really good at it. Good luck boar

[squeeb27]

It is still amazing that this post has been up for a lil while now. Some think "you have deeper issues." You know nothing about this guy other than his wife doesn't like to fish. My wife, your wife, who "really" cares. I find this site enjoyable and full of fun and helpful facts. I will give anyone tips on getting someone not involved in the outdoors, to get them involved. To say you will side with someones wife on this issue when your wife probably gets upset sometimes when you leave them to fish or hunt is just wrong. I'm not trying to start a war here, but come on he was looking for tips to help get his wife involved, not fix a marriage that probably isnt broken.

[cementhead21]

I was with the same woman for 27 years and married for 25 . She would allways may a huge issue out of my hunting and fishing. I tried everything under the sun to get her involved but it never changed. To the point that all my buddies would ask alot what was her problem.. well enough was enough and yeahs there was a pile of other issues also ,, and called it quits. now couldnt be happier with the gal i am with who loves the out doors as much as I...

[Boar]

Yea I guesse we should take a step back an look at ourselves before we try an figure out someone elese's situation, cause we certainly know each other so well from just a computer thread. I think everyones heart was in the right place though.

[adamr]

women could rule the world by simply closing there legs!

[jkjkoda]

Sounds like she needs a hobbie. My wife used to be this way. But now she would rather have me gone she calls it my theropy. I'm always working thought so had to learn that all she really wonted was me to spend some time with her.

[bottom-bouncer]

  adamr said:

women could rule the world by simply closing there legs!

What do you mean they could rule the world? They already do!