child support paying dads

[analyzer]

Here's a story for you Dobber...

I once dated a beautiful girl(Annette), and fell desperately in Love. I had never truly been in Love before; it was a brand new experience and I was going to treat her right. I had never dated anyone more than 3 weeks, so I decided to celebrate each monthly anniversary of our first date, with a special event... A trip to Wisconsin Dells, a cesna flight to Duluth for dinner, a date for dinner and brought her back to my room which I had filled with atleast 1000 balloons... I thought this was the girl I was going to marry...

In October, for our monthly anniversary we went to the embassy suites in St. Paul, had dinner, went for a horse n buggy ride, had a great evening, saw the Twins/Stlouis World Series game...Hrbie hit a slam...And then she hit a slam...She broke it off, NO REASON WHY... It absolutely devastated me... I begged her for a reason...nothing. I wrote her daily and then weekly for months. NO response. Christmas cards, phone calls, valentines cards, nothing. I understand your pain...very well...

This story has a strange twist though...

I started dating again 6 months after she broke up with me... I still thought of her, but was moving on... In June I went on a 6000 mile motorcycle trip... and when I came back, I received a phone call from Annette.

She wanted to go out. I had a girlfriend now, but was intrigued. Why after all these months of not returning my calls or responding to my letters were you calling NOW. I counted on my fingers Oct, Nov, Dec, Jan, Feb, March, April, May, June...

Ok,(9 months), we'll go out... I fully expected her to be 9 months pregnant... I drove over to her house with my motorcycle (intentionally, so we couldn't go anywhere) but when I got there I was surprised... She wasn't pregnant, she was skinny and looked good. We went for a ride for a few hours and she told me how much she loved me and how much she missed me... Iwas confused, Why NOW. We went back to her house and she invited me in (I thought she just wants to have sex, and I had been hurt too badly to go there). I told her I had a girlfriend and wasn't interested, but she insisted. We talked until 2 o'clock in the morning, until I told her I really had to go. She said wait I can't go...(I'm still thinking she wants to have sex). She told me to close my eyes, and then she put a package in my lap. I opened my eyes and opened the gift, it was a baby blue and white striped shirt... I didn't get it. She was now shaking terribly and tears were running down her face... She told me to shut my eyes again. When I opened them again, there were pictures in my lap... of my Son.

I had prayed for months for God to bring her back to me... he did, but be careful what you wish for.

In October of 87 the stock market crashed and cost me $5000. The girl of my dreams broke up with me... In Feb the stock market crashed again and cost me $3000, in March my Truck was stolen $5000. In April my Parents divorced. In June I found out I had a 3 wk old son. In July I fell asleep at the wheel and crashed my brothers car on the north shore (remember my truck was stolen so I had to use my brothers vehicle, I hadn't been sleeping well and needed to get away to the BWCA to think things through), in August I was fired. In September I lost another $3000 in Vegas, in October my girlfriend was pg again... If a person can survive a year like that.... you can survive anything with TIME...

BTW, Annette and I broke up for a year and a half when the kids were 3 and 4... We have now been married 11 years...

Hang in there Dobber... You don't know what God has planned for you.

[Guest]

WOW!!!!!!!......I feel for all you guys and agree.....kids come first.....i was never married and i thank my stars for that but i do have a daughter......a long story which i wont put here...all i'll say is her mother poisoned her mind.....hopefully she'll come to me one day.....but i do have to ask.......why.....after all you guys went through.....would you EVER....and i mean EVER.......want to get married again?????.......having a girlfriend is one thing....but married again to set yourself up to go through the same stuff makes no sense to me at all........being single is a beautiful thing!!!!!!....no complainin.....nagging....whining.....hunny do lists......to each his own but i only need to be hit over the head once!!!!!......lol......i don't or won't trust women as far as i could throw them......i'd rather have a dog.......more loving and loyal......i'm not trying to offend anyone in any way whatsoever......just my 2 cents....hope things work out good for all the dads getting screwed by thier ex's and the state....

[rockhardinmn]

Hey Wait a minite here ,, are you sure you and i didnt trade shoes some place Anelyzer? sorry if i spelled that wrong ,, but my story is so close to yours its not even funny ..

Dobber .. Email me when you may be free . the time is close

[Redlantern]

Walleyekiller, not all women are evil, greedy, sick, dimented beings. I think a lot of the reasons marriages don't work is that sometimes people pick the wrong mate. My second ex isn't an awful person, we just weren't right for each other. While I'm not in a hurry to get married again I suspect I'll get married again someday. I like having a woman around to share my life with. Don't be afraid to love. A lot of good can come from it.

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Erik