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Strange empty kind of a feeling

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Well that is that, I got my papers in the mail today. Divorced. smirk As much as I have wanted this to get resolved, I guess I was not prepared for that strange, empty, sad kind of feeling. Almost the same feeling I had when we sepparated. I have not been "single" for 12 years. (Separated for the past 2, but still married, prior to that we dated 5 years, and were married for 5 more) Now I am just trying to decide how to "close" this chapter of my life and begin writting the next. I realise this all takes time but ...

I do have a bit of a head start on that new chapter...

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I got custody of my "Goose"!!! That makes me happy and keeps me going everyday. Now I can focus on doing right by her and being the best dad I know how to be.

Thanks for letting me vent a bit in my past posts on this subject. The support and friendships I have gotten from this site have meant a lot in the last couple of years. A HUGE! thanks to Wanderer and his family. They have done a lot to help me keep my head above water. Now to create more happy memories. Got abby out in the boat this summer (thanks Tracy wink ) With any luck ice fishing this winter eek . The above was her helping me get ready to go hunting this fall. She will never be a tomboy, more like a high maintnance girly girl, " they make camo in pink right daddy? " but she loves the outdoors, so it's a start.

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It's gotta be tough.

In regards to the daughter being a girlie girl. Not a problem at all. I have two with one who's definately of the girlie girl variety. She thumped a nice deer opening weekend and will be hunting with me again this weekend.

Enjoy your time with her.

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I feel for you, it's a hard thing to go through. Enjoy your time with your daughter.

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I know where you are coming from with the daughter bit...sons make you proud, etc., but daughters will twist a Dad every which way. My grand-daughter is about the same age as your daughter and is very girly-girly type, but will go fishing with her Dad and Grandpa anytime.

Good luck with your future.

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Neighborguy,

I'm glad u got custody of ur lil sweetie!

Time to make many more happy memories with her.....Keep us updated on how the lil girly girl does with all the fishing and hunting! smile

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neighborguy I feel ya. Was married for 11 years and got divorced. One of my worst days was watching my kids go with their mother to another state. Time heals things. You are fortunate that you have custody of your daughter. Not too many guys are that lucky. Be the best dad you can be, but don't over do it. Don't be shy about asking for advice/help. If you don't mind me asking, what part of Isanti you live at?

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Thanks for letting us know how everything went down for you N_guy. Your little girl is just so cute!! I'm glad everything went your way! Congrats!

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I'm sorry to hear about the divorce, I've been there. sick I think your daughter will keep you plenty busy and help get your mind off things. grin If you need any advice about girls your in the right place! wink

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like you said, the supporty and friends on here are a great help and support group. take care of the "Little Goose" and you will have more fun than you think!

mike

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... If you don't mind me asking, what part of Isanti you live at?

Far, Southern, Rural Isanti. Almost to St. Francis. I still claim Isanti because that is were I was raised and I have lived within 12 miles of town my entire life. I had a place south of town on the river up until a few months ago. frown I only made it a year on one income, turned out the mortgage was an ARM. I thought it was fixed. (that is another story)

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I was married 18 years and had 4 daughters.I also fought and won sole custody of them.I did not date for 2 years and focused on myself and my daughters.My youngest daughter is in here first year of college this year.I also have another daughter in her 3rd year of college.3 of my 4 daughters got a college education.We only get 1 chance to guide these kids to a good future.Stay focused and beleive me....they grow up faster than you can imagine.Good Luck ...You can do it.

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Wishing - you must be one heck of a guy to raise 4 daughter on your own. Good job

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