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How many of you visit the graveyard over Memorial Weekend?

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It is a tradition for me to visit the graves each year of my mother, past aunts and uncles, friends, grandparents, and even great and great great relatives (ones way before my time that I never met).

I visit the graves and add flowers...and remember.

But, I see fewer and fewer flowers each year at the graves. Also, I rarely see children visiting these sites. Even many members of my family have stopped going.

Is this tradiction being lost?

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I normally have gone to the cabin on Memorial weekend. This year I didnt, so I went around and put flowers on the graves of family members that have passed. The scary part is, the list of graves has grown to be fairly big since I have done this last! And it just makes you think that one should visit the graves more often.

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My dad's grave is 3 hours from me, and my birth mom's grave is 1.5 hours away - in the opposite direction. I still have a hard time going to my dad's. My step mom is good about placing flowers on his gravesite. My dad used to send money to my uncle for flowers to put on my birth mom's grave on Memorial day, but now that he is gone, that hasn't been done.

We don't usually go on Memorial day, but we do try to make it out sometime during the year. As for other relatives - I have visited cemeteries all over doing genealogy stuff from time to time, so they are used to that. We tell stories about the ones my kids never had the opportunity to meet.

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Didn't go this year, but I like to get to Snelling on Memorial day- partially for the 3 family members there, and partially because it is a cool sight out there that day...

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Well, my folk's are about 4 hours away, grandparents, aunts, and uncles about 3 hours away, another set of relatives are burried 3 days drive away, and my wife's side of the familly is 20 hours of flying away. So, we go when we can. This year we did make it to my folk's and some on my Mom's side. It was fun in that they're burried in the driftless area and I like to fly fish. So, one day visiting graves and another day fishing - a good memorial day.

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Most of my family is buried in Central MN. It can take all day to visit all the sites...but it is well worth it.

When I am gone...I hope the tradition is not lost in my family. But I fear it will be.

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I go to the cemetaries each and every year, sometimes...most of the time, more then once.

It's a place to reflect on alot of things...concerning those that have gone before you.

I visit the graves of the soldiers, each gravesite marked with a white tombstone, all in neat rows, like they are in formation. Some of them fellas are a long ways from home and none of their family comes to visit. Some have no family left, or if they do, the interned soldiers have long been forgotten, or shuffeled to the back of the drawer. Some have lain for over 100 years. Maybe they like that when someone walks among them and acknowledges their final resting place and the fact that they were? You never know. I'm sure they like it when each memorial day rolls around, their second family comes and plants a small flag to show they care.

You see love stories that have played out and those yet to be finalized, you see the loyalty of blood binds, men and women who themselves are old and bent, putting flowers and giving remembrance to those that have gone before them. Relatives and friends, remembering relatives and friends, right on through time.

I visit my brothers and sisters, my dad, inlaws, uncles, people I walked with in this life, some ever so briefly, some I never even knew, having gone long before I came. For me anyways, a trip to the cemetaries makes me think about how I conduct my life and what I could do better.

For those I don't visit due to miles, time or any number of things that get in the way, I think about the people that have had an impact on me....caused me to remember....John Kehnen, Ray Wittenback, Fred Wood, John McConn, Marie Spoden, to name a few...my uncles, Crow, Levi, Dutch, to name a few more.

Yeah, I visit the cemetarys and I wonder about all the forgotten people, from times long past...I guess thats how it is....but when you see a fresh clean up and flowers on a site that is close to 100 years old, it puts a smile on your face knowing that somebody out there still remembers somebody!

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