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slabchaser

I cant believe it happened again

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My wife and I moved to the metro two years ago from southern Mn for a job she really wanted me to take. In this two year period my wife has been layed off three times from 2 graphic desgin companies and one retail job. The last time being yesterday. I know things are bad but its really making it hard to be comfortable anymore. Her boss told her she would be one of the last ones to go if it had to happen and aparently that meant one of the first. We had planned on having our second child for a while and now that my wife is 11 weeks pregnant she is without a job. This is so frustrating. I dont mean to whine because I know most people are feeling it now adays but I needed to rant to someone. I think my wife would feel even worse if I told her my frustrations. Thanks for letting me vent

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Things will get better, I have no doubt. I know it can be very hard. Keep the chin up, and lean on your wife as she leans on you. You are a team. smilesmile

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I know this is not very comforting, but I have been through 3 companies closings, 4 layoffs, and 1 strike over the last 30 years. It does SUCK! Best I can say is don't give up. If one keeps plugging forward it does get better again. There are times when life is just not a walk in the park.

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My wife and I moved to the metro two years ago from southern Mn for a job she really wanted me to take. In this two year period my wife has been layed off three times from 2 graphic desgin companies and one retail job. The last time being yesterday. I know things are bad but its really making it hard to be comfortable anymore. Her boss told her she would be one of the last ones to go if it had to happen and aparently that meant one of the first. We had planned on having our second child for a while and now that my wife is 11 weeks pregnant she is without a job. This is so frustrating. I dont mean to whine because I know most people are feeling it now adays but I needed to rant to someone. I think my wife would feel even worse if I told her my frustrations. Thanks for letting me vent

My wife got laid off so I can somewhat relate. Thankfully, most of our kids are out of the house and our debt load is low. hang in there and conrads on the new arrival

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Hang in there!

My wife started a new job monday with a big company, Went in for training monday. After 3 hours of training, They called her and 3

other new trainee's into the office. The biggies said things were slow and they had to let them go... Brown & bigalow...

randy

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If you lived close to Shakopee, we could hire your wife as our childcare provider. That seems to be the one industry (other than government) that seems to be experiencing no slowdown as based by the increasing cost of care.

I'm guessing you probably bought as house? If you havn't, I would hit the road OUT of this state. There are other states that are actually growing!

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As others have stated, keep your head up. The ones who don't give up seem to always come out of this even if it seems now it won't happen.

Over the years I have had numerous health issues and lost a few good paying jobs. I thought it would never work out and at times things got pretty tight.

All is well now. Keep plugging away as those that keep their head up will come through it all.

I have been there and I'm sure you feel it won't work out but, it does. Its a tough one for sure.

Good luck to the both of you.

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My wife got laid off so I can somewhat relate.

I was wondering if you were going to change that statement.... grin

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My wife got laid off so I can somewhat relate.

I was wondering if you were going to change that statement.... grin

I spotted that after I put my glasses back on. My almost 50 year old eyes aint what they used to be

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My wife and I are in a similar boat in the same lake. She was laid off about 2 months ago, with 3 1/2 months severance pay and benefits. She then had a good lead on a job, went through multiple interviews and was given a tentative offer, to which she accepted. After the long weekend semi-celebrating and waiting for the actual offer letter to come, she got a call from the HR rep who she had been dealing with, stating that the position was now on hold for another 4 months. Talk about disappointed.

She is continuing to look for work now, and is looking at this little layoff suprise as a gift of some sort: she is able to take this as a "second maternity leave" and watch our daugther make her huge developmental "firsts" now as she was 8 months old when she was laid off. We pulled her out of daycare immediately, and she has witnessed first teeth, sitting up, crawling, clapping, waving, babbling, pulling up and walking along furniture, and active playing among other little things. Not too many employed mothers are blessed with the chance to see all that firsthand, unfortunately. But, we need a second income, and she will comtinue to look for a job.

On a side note, I don't see the correlation between layoffs and more need for daycare; our in-home provider has lost us and another couple's kid, and may be losing another family. The provider has said that this is happening all over.

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But, we need a second income, and she will comtinue to look for a job.

Do you have a cabin in ottertail county? Is that why you NEED the 2nd income???? Wouldn't it be nice to sell the cabin and spend the next 18 years focusing on raising your children? I would love to have a cabin/land but raising the kids is more important and expensive than some "property". I'm sorry but this is so common in our NOW society.

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To the original poster, good luck!

chasineyes, unless you know McGurk & are giving him a hard time, or have lived an ideal life & never made a mistake, you are way out of line.

You want to start a debate on that feel free, it's a legit point of debate, but couched in an attack on somebody you don't know is ignorant & arrogant, among other things.

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Grew up in OT Cty, moved to the cities for money (hence, the "via"), hope to end up back there as that's where my parents still are and where I feel home is. Cabin up there (or anywhere)? I wish. New truck? No. 4 wheeler(s) or snowmobile(s)? No. Hunting land? No. 60 yr old 3 BR rambler? Yes. Semi-healthy savings and retirement funds? YES.

I (WE) need the second income to try to put our girl and future kids through schooling and not have the hard times both our parents had as we grew up, with the dual incomes (and right now single income) that we have. Beleive me; we ran the numbers and 1 kid on my paycheck is breaking even, any more than that and we're on a downward slide.

If wanting a better life for our kids than we had is wrong, then I apologize, chasineyes. I'm still down on the floor reading the want-ads with my wife if you need to deliver another kick.

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Grew up in OT Cty, moved to the cities for money (hence, the "via"), hope to end up back there as that's where my parents still are and where I feel home is. Cabin up there (or anywhere)? I wish. New truck? No. 4 wheeler(s) or snowmobile(s)? No. Hunting land? No. 60 yr old 3 BR rambler? Yes. Semi-healthy savings and retirement funds? YES.

I (WE) need the second income to try to put our girl and future kids through schooling and not have the hard times both our parents had as we grew up, with the dual incomes (and right now single income) that we have. Beleive me; we ran the numbers and 1 kid on my paycheck is breaking even, any more than that and we're on a downward slide.

If wanting a better life for our kids than we had is wrong, then I apologize, chasineyes. I'm still down on the floor reading the want-ads with my wife if you need to deliver another kick.

Well said. Sometimes a person just needs a little unquestioning support. It ain't easy out there. It should be easier in here.

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I work in marketing for a large company who is laying off staff left and right in favor of freelancers and contractors. She should seriously look into starting her own graphic design business or getting on board with a small design group that does contract work. There are also some websites out there that connect freelance designers with business looking for projects completed more affordably than what the huge Advertising firms would charge. Obviously easier said than done, but I think the trend of hiring contract workers instead of having designers on the payroll is here to stay.

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Apology accepted 'eyes. And thanks, Steve and Max12. I also wish the best of luck to slabchaser, tacklejunkie, and bbqhead, along with anyone else who is in this situation. I thank God that my wife is as frugal as she is, ans has made me that way too, now that we are where we are. Having our house be the only thing we don't own outright helps us get through this, too. Things will get better, I have no doubt, it's just a matter of when.

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I too wish Good luck to all who are looking for jobs now. I was half time for half of this year, but full time again. Glad my wife's job seems pretty safe for now, but we all know that "safe" is a fickle term...

I just sold an old RV, and that cash is going in savings rather than a new bow, cause I am betting I just might have to take a cut again, prolly around xmas. Right now our company is just my boss and me and a part time accoutant, and I know he won't cut himself loose before me, ha! I am planning for it already, but hoping it doesn't come.

...but 4 years ago company I worked for went bankrupt, no severence, no vacation pay, no expense checks paid, no nothing... It does hurt at the time. So good luck to those looking for work, and also good luck (and good planning to minimize pain) to those of us who might soon be in that position again...

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My wife and I moved to the metro two years ago from southern Mn for a job she really wanted me to take. In this two year period my wife has been layed off three times from 2 graphic desgin companies and one retail job. The last time being yesterday. I know things are bad but its really making it hard to be comfortable anymore. Her boss told her she would be one of the last ones to go if it had to happen and aparently that meant one of the first. We had planned on having our second child for a while and now that my wife is 11 weeks pregnant she is without a job. This is so frustrating. I dont mean to whine because I know most people are feeling it now adays but I needed to rant to someone. I think my wife would feel even worse if I told her my frustrations. Thanks for letting me vent

Out of couriosity, did they know she was pregnant? Is that perhaps why she went from last out the door to first? I feel for you, it's not a gret time to be in those situations.

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Things can be frustration. I had a nice job with the state here in Fergus Falls but due to cut backs I'm laid off effective next tuesday. Been doing things to bring in a little income but still looking for a regular job. It's not easy these days. Best of luck to all who are out there in the same boat (no pun intended). I am lucky in having the benefit of some income coming into the house from my GF working and my business, but now my business is down to Friday's Saturday's and Sunday's due to my son being in school and to save on some money, I'll be home to see him off and be home when he gets here. Friday's work because he can go to his mom's or come home to my GF if she's home. But again, my thoughts and prayers go out to all of those looking for work right now as well. As long as we have people to talk through and help us up in these down times, we will make it through.

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I feel your pain. 2 1/2 years ago my wife and I made the joint decision for her to quit her job and stay home to raise our children after we had our second son (he turned 3 this May). This was feasible based on the fact that I made enough to live on until both kids are in school fulltime and her income was about the same as our daycare costs were. We made some lifestyle changes to accommodate this change.

Meanwhile we were able to buy a nicer, newer home in January 2008. Then I took a 30% pay cut that May. We considerably changed our lifestyles at that point and eliminated most of our "fun spending", including going out to eat, vacations, etc. Last December I lost paid holidays at work. And then this past May I took another pay cut and am now making less than 50% of what I used to make, plus I lost all of my paid vacation (4 weeks worth).

Luckily we have savings to live off of while I try and find another job. And my only "toy" is a 1973 Crestliner with a 1972 Johnson outboard.

Oh yeah, they also stopped offering medical insurance after July of this year.

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That's a tough break. Best of luck Bubba, and everyone. I am lucky that my toy is paid for and the Evinrude on there doesn't burn up gas like the old Johnson I had, but I had just purchased a new truck in July. Things will work out, but buying additional things for my boat, or a bigger boat, is on a slow down and down to small things like tackle and bait.

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jiggin, no her boss didnt know she was pregnant, she is only three months along. My wife was doing two jobs for her employer. She was doing the book work for her boss and design. Her boss didnt want to train another person for the book work. she got moved to strictly design and then her boss didnt need to depend on her. Good luck to everyone. My father keeps on telling me things will get better but that is about all the hope that I am relying on right now.

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slabchaser, I wish you the best of luck with the new baby, and hope you can get things to work out. If you need some baby stuff, we can probably part with some girl stuff and some excess bottles and stuff. Don't hesitate to ask for any other specifics.

MikeA, tough break. Seems like you are also making the best of it with your kid, and I'm happy to hear about an involved father in a separated parentship. All the best.

Bubbadust, It seems to just keep coming down on you, and best of luck in weathering this storm. We also were looking at larger and newer houses at about the same time as you were, but I really dragged my feet due to the difficulty of selling our existing house and the additional financial burden. For once my procrastination actually helped our situation, and we stay in our "cozy" 1500 sq ft rambler. The good news for you is, if you can keep afloat, you will have bought your house right, and will have a phenomenal interest rate for years to come. Good Luck!

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