Guests - If You want access to member only forums on HSO. You will gain access only when you sign-in or Sign-Up on HotSpotOutdoors.

It's easy - LOOK UPPER right menu.

Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0
carpmanjake

family troubles...

11 posts in this topic

ok. so i just woke up to my mom yelling at my brother, who is 15. she gave him a UA and found weed in his system. he has been caught twice before, and he said he was clean.

and my mom is crying so hard, and just screaming. and she is on the edge of an emotional breakdown. what should i do!?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

What your mom should do is call the proper authorities and have your brother put in treatment for teen drug users. I don't know what there called or how to call but their out there.

You have you to worry about. Not what your brother is doing. You need to keep yourself on the straight and narrow and make sure you don't slide off in the wrong direction. I've seen some of your post and pictures. And you have a good thing going with all the fish you catch. And the more time you spend on the water and in the woods the less likely you are to slide to the dark side.

Back in high school my best friend started down that path because it was the cool thing to do, while I stayed with the outdoors and I have a great job, Buying a house in the next month, my truck that I bought brand new and all my toys are paid for. My ex-best friend has a crappy job, indet up to his eyeballs and is burnt out beyond repair.

So in my opinion you worry about you and only you that is hard enough. Hope this helps.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

nicholas- drugs are something i would never turn to. i will not screw up my entire life doing something illegal just because its "cool".

i did have a guy tlking to me this spring about how happy he was to see a kid my age so in love with fishing. his exact words "im glad you love fishing so much. you go out and get high off of catching big fish, while all the other kids these days turn to drugs and alcohol"

and im not really worried about him. im worried about my mom, she just kicked this guy out, who was very abusive. and now he has been stalking her. then she has to deal with this [PoorWordUsage]. she is so close to a breakdown its scary...

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Having been through this myself- she can call a county social worker and they will help.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hello Jake, if you have not already please call your dad, grandparent, uncle, or aunt and please tell them your concern's. The net is a great place to share fishing stories but the advice and more importantly the help your brother needs can come more quickly through your immediate family. Take care Jake, Kevin.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Hello Jake, if you have not already please call your dad, grandparent, uncle, or aunt and please tell them your concern's. The net is a great place to share fishing stories but the advice and more importantly the help your brother needs can come more quickly through your immediate family. Take care Jake, Kevin.

I agree with this 100% Jake. You do have to take care of yourself, but at the same time it's fair to have concerns for your family. That's what being a man is about. Do check with your family and see if they can help. IMO, your brother needs to go in for treatment. That will help him off of it and give your Mom a well deserved break.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Jake - how you doing? Are you taking care of yourself?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Tell your brother to stop hitting the pipe.

I take it you are the older brother? He is family, he is your brother, give him some advice. I know if it were my little brother I would talk to him. You would be helping your mom out at the same time.

gl

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

smack him around a bit. these days, everyone thinks its such a crime to spank. if he's your brother, rough him up a bit!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

smack him around a bit. these days, everyone thinks its such a crime to spank. if he's your brother, rough him up a bit!

Like my Grandfather used to say to me "you want me to take you out behind the barn, and teach you a lesson?"

That got my attention real quick. He means what he says.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Jake, keep your chin up, if i was given the chance you have, I would offer him a chance to see what it feels like to experience one of your highs (the outdoors), what it feels like to want that big walleye thats on the end of your line to get into that net, what it feels like to have that buck come crashen threw the brush right at you after you grunt! Show him what he really has been missing, something you may have had the chance to have shown to you that he hasn't, it your chance to be the mentor!!! Make the best of it, i've been there and it's great once you get over the rocks!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!


Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.


Sign In Now
Sign in to follow this  
Followers 0



  • Posts

    • Sure seems like a nice little bait. Takes the topwater frog to a whole new level.
    • They talked today about the D inability to find shooting lanes....I like Reilly's ability to walk the blueline with the puck and shoot quickly...maybe he could help...but he is not physical by any means... BB stated he wants a big physical Dman for starters.
    •   Good stuff...the main diff between Chicago and Mn was the way the Bowman took ownwership of the problem and Fletch did as expected today and blamed a hot goaltender, danced around pointed questions...he did however admit we are in a tough position with the Cap and few draft choices but steered clear of ownership to that problem....did you listen in by chance...it was almost laughable
    • BB, I cant say I disagree with any of those observations. They didn't produce when it counts. That is what really matters, but it isn't the first time that teams excel in the regular season and flop come playoff time and it certainly isn't something that is isolated to the Wild. The Hawks get some slack because they have won 3 cups in the last 7 years, but fact is they have been bounced in the last 2 1st rounds too. By that, they are no better than us. We will see what happens to the Caps. They have a tough draw with the Pens this round, but its not a stretch to say they will get bounced 2 years in a row and be the Presidents Cup winner. Lots of teams have that issue. Anaheim has had that tendency too. Playoffs are a whole different animal. The team makeup that works in the regular season usually doesn't translate well in the playoffs. I agree the Wild need more beef. Staal certainly helped, but they are far from a heavy team especially on the back end with our D. Early on I thought we had one of the deepest D corps in the league. Looking at them in this playoff series they looked weak. We needed a guy like Folin to step in and play some minutes and make a difference, but he was shell-shocked in his first playoff game. I don't think we have much help in that area in Iowa either. The heaviest guy we have Seeler, is a liability big time and I don't know if he will ever make it up to the big club.
    • You can pre-order on a Japanese web site ... i almost did but got spooked out with all the Japanese language and had no idea how to translate and know what shipping and price was LOL     i want one but will wait!!!  so many lures and not enough time
    • Wow .. Sprinkler!!  Wonder where and when we can get one!!
    • Thanks for the advice guys...keep it coming!   Much appreciated before I make a pretty expensive investment.   Ref
    •   I stated they are better than 3/4 yrs ago compared to themselves...my point is the Wild are far from a top tier top 8 team when it counts come playoff playoff time...period...no arguing what just happened.  BB was very vocal in the Presser..."we need to get Bigger/Stronger" and Fletch missed that boat time and time again. Career Years are great personal stats...am I happy for Granlund, Staal, Nino...yes...but personal stats only gets you more personal $$, but if those stats don't translate into team goals they are all for naught....and every NHL Player will tell you that. They did exceed my reg season projection but their true colors showed losing in the first round so over all I was spot on  IMO this team will be missing more than one of these "career year" guys by the start of the new season if BB has more say...and I am getting the feeling he will be getting more say on personel.
  • Our Sponsors